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I've already told you I'm lazy; I let my dog shite on the floor. So let's start here today. For starters, I'd like to know who actually takes the time to write suggestions and fold them into squares. Then feed them into a box with a slit. Who reads them? Well you'll all be happy to know that I've got a box and a slit. How anatomical. And today, it's my turn to feed on suggestions. I'm reading them, and I'm taking them--but just to be clear, they're suggestions, not advice. Unwarranted advice makes me gag. Poems make me flinch. Don't do that.
I've been hard at work on writing a book, so now it's up to you. Tell me things about which you'd like me to write here. Now's your chance.
September 21, 2004 in life observation | Permalink
Comments
You say you don't diet any longer, which is great. And you look incredible. What is your food philosophy (do you have one)?
Posted by: blueolive | Sep 21, 2004 9:57:21 AM
I've been enjoying your entries for a while now, just haven't made any comments yet. But here are my suggestions for some things to write about:
Pull a Beastie Boys and give us your impressions on Queens, Brooklyn, the Bronx, Manhatten, etc. You've been in NYC a while, and I'd like to hear an insider's point of view about those areas.
Your photography. Do you take a certain approach to it, look for something in particular, or just go around snapping pictures?
Along the lines of "100 things from my dad" and "100 things about me," how about a "100 worst dates" to give us a snapshot of your dating scene.
I'm sure I could come up with more, but I have to give other people a chance, too.
Posted by: James M | Sep 21, 2004 10:34:40 AM
I've got a suggestion. No more tart vagina references. ;| Actually, I really enjoy your posts and would not even attempt to suggest subject matter or critique your current postings. I do enjoy when you go off on sissy, carb counting metrosexuals though. Where is the slit located to slide this through?
Posted by: Jimmy Mack | Sep 21, 2004 11:31:31 AM
More Linus! damn is that dog cute...maybe i missed the entries, but how did you come into ownership of your little man?
no other suggestions, you always have a diverse array of stories to tell, I glad to have happened across your blog, its great reading.
Posted by: hazel | Sep 21, 2004 1:31:54 PM
Well, is it truly a suggestion if I say that I love what you have done thus far and that you should just keep it coming? I envy your photographs and aspire to take pictures half as lovely. Look at me, I'm gushing. I've been reading for about a month and think your writing is exceptional and I enjoy it every day. Don't know if that was helpful or not, but wasn't it nice to hear? :)
Posted by: Kate | Sep 21, 2004 1:50:23 PM
Well, is it truly a suggestion if I say that I love what you have done thus far and that you should just keep it coming? I envy your photographs and aspire to take pictures half as lovely. Look at me, I'm gushing. I've been reading for about a month and think your writing is exceptional and I enjoy it every day. Don't know if that was helpful or not, but wasn't it nice to hear? :)
Posted by: Kate | Sep 21, 2004 1:50:58 PM
So nice, it posted twice...I LOVE the Internet. {that was me, and my sarcasm}
Posted by: Kate | Sep 21, 2004 1:52:43 PM
Holy cow, that suggestion box metaphor is hilarious. As far as suggestions go for writing, you do quite well on your own. No tainting from us needed!
Posted by: Jager | Sep 21, 2004 2:32:09 PM
i personally enjoy reading about your thoughts, ideas and musings, rather than the accounts of the sceney glam parties. that being said, keep doing what you are doing. it's great so far.
Posted by: joe | Sep 21, 2004 3:07:02 PM
I really like like "sceney glam party" accounts. Don't listen to joe. :)
Posted by: Lain | Sep 21, 2004 4:23:24 PM
of course we want to know the losing the virginity story.....DUH!!
Posted by: Anonymous | Sep 21, 2004 4:27:53 PM
Hmmm. I loved that Barbie post from a while back. I like it a lot when you go all metaphorical on us. And the "sex of a city"-- that one was great. So really, things like that are my favorites. But I like everything you write.
OOOOOH OOOOH (she says, like Horshack from Welcome Back Kotter)..... How about a few stories that tell details of how you got some of those cool Paris shots? Or Italy ones? More! More! I love the ones you always get of old men....
Posted by: Kim Wells | Sep 21, 2004 5:01:21 PM
Anything that helps us to better understand the moments in your life that have truly shaped you. You already give us these teasing little glimpses and I think its great. In a world that is so consumed with falseness, your brutal honesty is refreshing.
Posted by: Carrie | Sep 21, 2004 6:18:58 PM
More about the stupid things that we (guys) do...whether it be trying to pick you up or something done when out on a date. I guess this so we learn what not to do.
More about what you are feeling and why. Don't leave us hanging as to why you are feeling a certain way. Plus guys need to know how women's minds work.
More about your past and what has shaped you as a person. Your past provides a significant amount of information that tells us who you are and what you have gone through.
Less about your ex-husband. We know that you were hurt and probably still are. I think that you think about the situation you were in a lot and it continues to fester all of the hurt. Maybe you just need a distraction (someone new), but I think the constant reminder of him just makes things worse for you. Plus, I hate to read about you crying and it makes me mad that someone treated you the way that he did.
More pictures and drawings!!!! Your talent should be out here for all of us to enjoy.
Posted by: Tom | Sep 21, 2004 8:13:11 PM
You relay stories of angst very well, and have a rare ability to expose raw emotion in a unique way.
I haven't encountered many writers who can make me "taste" the atmosphere they're painting like you can. I've never skipped an entry because of disinterest, so it's difficult to offer any suggestions.
I wish you luck, though I don't think you need it. I'll definitely be adding your book to my collection.
Posted by: Kristin | Sep 21, 2004 9:27:53 PM
I wouldn't dare suggest anything, because the best writing seems to come out of almost nowhere, and why try to stick to a "format" when you're already such an entertaining read?
My suggestion? Don't take suggestions and continue to be yourself- staying "on topic" is for people who color inside the lines and take the same route to work every day.
Posted by: Kristi | Sep 22, 2004 9:37:27 AM
1) More skin, less pretense.
2) More pics of your behind and less lament about what should be behind you.
Posted by: Bragan | Sep 22, 2004 2:21:55 PM
You know, I don't know if anyone else has a problem with it, but since this is a suggestion box, I thought I would mention..... your font is kind of small and makes me squinty eyed. I always have to go to the "View" bar and make it "larger" or else I just can't read it. I know small fonts are popular... but is it possible to pop it up from 10 point to 12 point? I am lazy, too, and hate having to reset my "view" menu. :)
Posted by: Kim Wells | Sep 22, 2004 2:48:06 PM
I love your site, keep up the good work!! But I must admit that after reading your 'indepth' article about going 'brazilian' I think I may give it a miss??
Posted by: Faith | Sep 22, 2004 4:09:39 PM
-more lists-- they are the best
-more stories about your childhood-- the honesty kills me
-more about your daily life in nyc-- love that
-dish about your ex
-more linus-- so cute
-your favorite things in ny-- that would make a good list!
-really anything-- keep it up & don't change a thing. i love everything you write!
Posted by: robbie | Sep 22, 2004 7:36:13 PM
Use your humor! Most of the stuff you write is incredibly funny! I think I'd like more lists... it's inspired me to do my own. What the hell, I'm out of work and it keeps me busy! Writing about events from your past is always good. When I write, I usually laugh at myself. I once wrote about ages in my life. You know.. life at 5, 10, 12, etc. If you want, I'll send it to you. It's not funny, it's rather sad and serious in a lot of ways, but it shows how much I've grown through the years.
Posted by: Maria | Sep 22, 2004 11:46:18 PM
go on stephanie,
write the goddam book please.i am doing my eyes in looking at the screen,and you know that zillions would read it.
take a chance honey,little less socializing and your pooch would love your company anyway
stay as sweet as you are
matt in the desert.......
matt haywood that is!!!
Posted by: matt00haywood | Sep 23, 2004 9:01:07 AM
hey, Stephanie... write about how much you love...
me!!
No, just kidding. You don't need a fucking suggestion box. The stuff you come up with on your own is better than good enough.
Take care of yourself.
Posted by: Daniella | Sep 23, 2004 8:01:23 PM
Can you tell us about your beauty regimen? Make up, hair products,eyebrow waxer, favorite clothing stores? Do you straighten your hair yourself or have it blown out?
Posted by: Mep | Oct 28, 2004 3:25:28 PM
Don't be afraid to post of picture of yourself that is less-than-flattering.
Posted by: Marijane | May 5, 2005 12:56:37 AM
Stephanie, post about the J.A.P. Chronicles. I'd be interested in hearing what you have to say about it.
Posted by: Brownsavvy | May 26, 2005 5:37:04 PM
Comments: Fine
Posted by: Light Colonel | Jun 5, 2005 1:00:55 AM
JDate
I hear every Jewish single person in NYC is on it. True? Are you?
Posted by: Sarah | Jul 13, 2005 5:21:47 PM
Who are your role models? Who did you look up to as a child? Do you think any specifc person has influenced the person you are today?
I only ask this because in a way, you are an influence on me. I stumbled upon your blog recently (completely by accident) and you seem to be such a terrific, funny, intelligent, well-rounded woman. You are the kind of woman I strive to be.
Posted by: Lara | Jul 19, 2005 12:02:14 AM
How does it feel to enter history. In one moment you are not a part of this river without any form other than your private progress, as in a very unroyal progress. In the following motion, you are linked to the New York Times in this historical fabric. Do you realize you are hypertruth as compared to hyperfiction? I have written hyperfiction for ten years and poetry for thirty. You in the act of this blog created your own dimension. When does fiction and friction stop? What is the boundary between virtual and actual sexual tension? How are the motions of the erotic song different from the motion of the pen dipped into ink as in some Victorian journal? How do we separate ourselves from the observations that multiply without limit? How do we cut through the bullshit to some more elaborate and unanticipated fantasy?
Posted by: Sean Farragher | Jul 23, 2005 4:41:47 AM
I've got a better misheard lyrics website for you: http://www.kissthisguy.com/
Posted by: Millie | Jul 23, 2005 12:57:57 PM
Hi Stephanie,
This morning, after completing my weekly ritual of voraciously poring over the Sunday Styles section of the NY Times, I immediately ran to my room, grabbed my laptop, and went to your blog. I needed something to fill the void the season finale of Sex & the City had left... and watching the DVD episodes straight through, season by season just wasn't going to cut it... besides, I did that last week- for about the 5th time since the show ended.
Anyway, I've only read a few of your blog entries so far but I can't get enough!
And I was wondering... I just finished my freshman year at Barnard and I was curious if the Barnard vs. Columbia "rivalry" existed when you went there? Did Columbia girls ever try to make you feel inferior (when clearly Barnard girls are infinitely more attractive, mature, and often times more intelligent)? Did you ever tell strangers "I go to Columbia", just to avoid the blank stares and the dreaded response: "oh, Barnard... I've never heard of that one. Where is it?" Did you ever get that popular, snide comment from the jealous Columbia girl: "oh, you go to the Barnyard... the backdoor to the Ivies".
Maybe you didn't... or maybe you did and just didn't give a damn what anyone thought. I was just curious.
Keep up the fantastic work. I can't wait for your memoir to be published.
Best,
Kathryn McGinnis
P.S: I'm sure you get this at least a 100 times a week, but your hair is GORGEOUS! Lucky girl.
Posted by: Kathryn | Jul 24, 2005 10:00:13 AM
I can really relate to your thoughts and actions about being a single woman in NYC. Now imagine that you have a seven year old girl. Whoops! It happens and all of a sudden you are dating again and trying to be normal in this normal city we love so much. It is as if you are a parent and a teenager at the same time. Sneeking around. Taking phone calls in the bathroon. Trying to have sex without making any noise so that the little princess will not catch her mom naked in her bed with some man. She will call out, "I'm telling grandma!"It can be funny if it was not pathetic at the same time.Keep making me laugh!
Posted by: jennifer | Jul 24, 2005 8:14:13 PM
Try eating a lot of sunflower seeds. For some reason, for a few days after eating them, you lose the urge to snack on your fingers
Posted by: D.W. | Jul 25, 2005 3:36:50 AM
Briefly read some of your stuff. Your an alcoholic. When your life gets sufficiently out of control, skip the therapists, transendental meditation, or whatever else is trendy this week and seek help for that. Your life will get better, I promise.
Posted by: Kim | Jul 26, 2005 4:42:30 PM
I havent any suggetions right now. I just want to tell you that you are damn beautiful, both in your presence and your writeups.
Posted by: From the Himalayans | Jul 26, 2005 9:43:15 PM
I stumbled upon your blog and have been reading it for the past two days. I love your honestly, creativity and energy. Thanks for sharing and keep writing!
Posted by: Stephanie | Jul 27, 2005 1:11:30 PM
I found you today. I went to Greek Tragedy. Sorry, it's Geek Tragedy. The internet has the potential to amplify intelligence, or nonsence.
One guess where your blogging fits.
That does not mean I don't smile at what you do.
Wanna write? Get all Philip Roth's novels. Copy each; in longhand. Then write. That's the only way to become a writer.
You're welcome!
Posted by: martin | Jul 29, 2005 6:29:49 PM
Maybe some articles in german???
Posted by: roman Libbertz | Aug 3, 2005 10:13:27 AM
Hi, I am a newbie to your blog, via the NYTimes. In fact, I am a newbie to cyberspace in general--I am 50, and am learning, perforce. I just started a blog of my own, last night, because I found yours to be so cool. (Do the kids still say cool?)Will you look at mine? It's very brief, so far.
A lot of it will probably be about the fact that my husband left me for another woman when my breast cancer metastasized to Stage IV. That blew snot rockets, as I imagine your husband-leaving experience did for you.
I have always kept a journal--a high school teacher once told me "You're a writer; you must keep a journal." I guess blogging will be the same as writng in a journal. Anyway, the whole blog thing is to help me "get over" what happened. Writing has always been, as they tritely say, part of my process, but I've always been afraid of people reading my writing.
I'm not afraid of anything anymore.
Something Happened--is that the book that talks about men leaving their wives before their insides go bad and rot?
My insides are bad now--it's in my bones. Worse is the damage to me, myself.
Posted by: Eleanor | Aug 6, 2005 10:21:41 AM
Sometimes I read your posts and see myself before my marriage, kids, and weight gain. Othertimes I read your posts and wonder how I came to be so unwound. I was coiled right up. before. Before bedtimes, and curfews and the thoughts of the men you didn't have the heart to marry. Now I am unwound. As twenty six year olds on the verge of their third pregnancy can tend to be. Mindless. Without my mind leaking verbal rhetoric on my laptop. Now I am who I never was before. I am open for all to see. Who cares if "all" is just my husbands sarcastic glare- someone sees me! If seeing is believing, then I believe he has come to hate me. The me who no longer can write, wail, or slur my sentences in the drama of singlehood. I know my husband cared for me more when I was someone more similar to you. Someone who cared more and wondered why- and took the time to stay wound up. Ready to pounce, push, and f'ing coil back up.
I read your writings about how life will be when you are married and with a child? Can I tease you for only a moment? Can I possibly tell you how I relive every choice I made that got me to where I stand now? I will miss my past forever- I will tell no one. I will read your writings and marvel at your brilliance- and I will pretend I have none of my own. I will care for my children that I love and pretend I feel some sort of compassion for my husband. I will live one lie out for the rest of my life- because that will always be easier then the truth.
And what it my truth?
That sometimes when my kids are asleep and my husband is immersed in studying, I write fragmented thoughts on my computer and then I erase them. So that no one will know I ever wrote them, or felt them.
Or needed them.
Posted by: someones wife | Aug 10, 2005 11:58:13 AM
Remember you used to have links somewhere--either on the blog or your website--to some clothing stores, etc? I think you had them listed as favorites or something like that. I don't know if you know what I'm talking about. Anyway, I was looking for them again & can't seem to find them. Did you remove them?
Posted by: Kat | Aug 16, 2005 6:12:32 PM
Lolita is a fabulous book- the writing is amazing, the story sick as hell. great stuff.
Have you read Cheri by Colette?
A Heartbreaker. Keep up the good work.
Love, Rentamother
Posted by: Mother | Aug 19, 2005 9:07:03 AM
what to write about-about what you know-you
the inner santum of your world
i would be interested in it
from your personal perspective
Posted by: thomas | Aug 25, 2005 4:36:50 PM
How to cope with being an entrepreneur and being a woman dealing with all the responsibilities of running a house hold
I am in South Africa and I am going through tough challanges, how do the women in the United States cope with the work load.
Looking forward to your feedback
Posted by: neo | Aug 29, 2005 11:50:45 AM
How about a list of the things that you are scared to write about? I know you seem very open and honest, but if you are anything like the rest of us, my guess is we are seeing the tip of a beautiful iceberg. What do you still hide from your best friends? What do you hide from yourself?
Posted by: Marc | Aug 29, 2005 5:24:01 PM
Do you believe in reincarnation? If so, what would you come back as?
Posted by: sherri | Aug 29, 2005 10:45:44 PM
Your wedding wisdom was beautiful. Your best writing yet! Keep it up, Love, Rentamother
Posted by: Mother | Sep 1, 2005 8:11:33 AM
how about not trying to proft from the tragedy in New Orleans! Give because yo want to give.
Y
Posted by: Kirkland | Sep 3, 2005 9:52:11 AM
Profit? She posted for people to click ads(can't say that or the contract is void) if they don't have $$ and she'll donate ALL her $$ from it. I'm sure she does a lot more but if she told you, you'd say she was bragging. Look, she even didn't allow comments on the post to not take away from it. You're an idiot.
Posted by: kirkland's an idiot | Sep 3, 2005 8:23:29 PM
My 18-year-old son has beautiful red hair; it’s down to his shoulders. You have gorgeous red hair also. Have you ever noticed in the cartoons and movies that the bullies and “bad guys”, as well as everyday old antagonists are often portrayed as red heads? This has really irked me over the years. Have you ever noticed this and if so has it bothered you?
Posted by: Bib | Sep 20, 2005 2:28:44 PM
i can't seem to comment on your blog. why?
Posted by: Joey Kim | Nov 7, 2005 5:33:14 PM
You've got 100 things about me, 100 Things from dad and 100 things from mom.
How about 100 things about phil? 100 things from Phil?
Posted by: Fielding Melish | Feb 7, 2006 5:43:38 PM
Am reminded of the New Yorker cartoon: "blocked" writer surrounded by dogs in sundry poses--yawning stretching sleeping scratching--and his wife yells at him: "Write about dogs!"
Might I suggest that you refrain from calling our Asian friends from Japan that three letter word that you people use so flippantly; they are "Japanese." I have a few Japanese friends, and, yes, they do find it distasteful.
Posted by: the herb | Mar 19, 2006 5:50:24 PM
Can you write about a time when you, after several years of happiness with someone, all of a sudden unearth some hidden issue that you didn't know you had, and it's like a huge thorn between the two of you, and how did you work through it to save/maintain your relationship?
Posted by: SarahJ | Mar 19, 2006 11:51:03 PM
When and how did you know that Phil was the one to grow old with? We all have trouble with great relationships where logic says its perfect but there's still uncertainity. Any insight would be appreciated.
Posted by: oli | Apr 4, 2006 8:51:20 AM
Do you still read these now? Ever? My suggestions (or curiosities really) are about two things that I don't think you've written about here, though I could be mistaken: religion and your religious upbringing, how it has culturally affected you if not spiritually; and our experience at a women's college, how it changed your views if at all. I suppose these are quite general topics, but sometimes general things can end up being more nuanced than you predict.
Merci!
Posted by: Katherine | Jul 11, 2006 4:09:36 PM
Stephanie ~
This isn't so much a suggestion but more of a question. I can't find my favorite post that you wrote, the one about a man going south in a cab headed north... do you still have that one up somewhere?
Also, I'm curious how the book sales are going in the UK... I can't wait until the 25th... I'm not making any plans that night so I can stay home and read!
Posted by: Jenn | Jul 18, 2006 1:18:08 PM
Hi i don't think you need any suggestions, your blog is fantastic ! Im 15 and i think its cool reading about someone older with more life experience. I was wondering if someone could link me to the loosing virginity entry though, because me and my boyfriend are planning on going all the way soon, and it would put me at ease. As long as everything went well !
Posted by: Laura | Aug 12, 2006 12:38:56 PM
Re yesterday's post about how far you can go with telling friends what you think of them...I'd be interested to hear what you think about when it's time to "break up" with a girlfriend, and how one goes about that. I tend to attract people who are having a really hard time with life, and I love them and want to help them (and they've been good to me), but I end up exhausted and resentful. I'd like to be around more people who are excited about life, who are ambitious, and who are moving forward--so we can encourage and inspire each other. Instead I often feel like I'm trying to run with a ball and chain around my leg. Is it OK morally, karmically (sp?) to end (or let fade away) a friendship with someone who's depressed? I can't bring myself to do it. In the past, with a "friend" who was emotionally abusive, I actually wrote a real live breakup letter and officially ended it. It was one of the best things I ever did. But this time it's different. Have any experiences like this? What do you think?
Posted by: GraceMarie | Aug 25, 2006 7:13:40 PM
Stephanie,
My current MID (man I'm dating) and I coined a term this weekend that made me think of the post where you and The Suitor were driving along 2222 and had he not pissed you off you would have gone down on him. The MID and I were at a picnic and I told him that I was tipsy enough for him to take advantage of me. He asked if I was drunk enough to give him a hummer - so our new term is Hummer Drunk. I wasn't quite Hummer Drunk that day but am looking forward to the next time I am!
So I wonder, do girls always have to be Hummer Drunk for such an act? I do. Are there girls out there who really like it? A friend of mine actually prefers it to intercourse. Have you and your girlfriends talked about this on girls' night out? I think this would make a good post, especially in your current state of constant arousal.
Good luck with the pregnancy and hopefully it will start to get cooler here in Austin!
~BA
Posted by: BA | Aug 29, 2006 5:33:40 PM
Stephanie,
I just made a post somewhere in your blog and now I cant find it. Oh well.
Do you read all of your comments? There's no way you could...or do you?
I'd love to read a blog post about what you think of some of the comments you receive. Do some annoy you? Do some hurt your feelings? Do any ring true and you have this urge to respond directly to that person?
do you ever use their suggestions?
Just curious if all these comments start sounding the same.
compliment after compliment after compliment.
Do you ever wish one of your readers would say "wow, that blog entry sucked nuts"
I adore your writing so i cant say i blame them.
Posted by: Julie | Aug 30, 2006 12:52:31 PM
I am quite impressed by your stories. Kindly email me your future stories at kishankumarg@hotmail.com
Thanks,
KKumar, Delhi,India.
Posted by: KKumar | Sep 19, 2006 7:05:52 AM
STEPH! I wish I really knew you although i feel as though i do. I refer to you as my blog girl because you're the only one i read. It's my sugar in the middle of my work day. I was wondering if you'll be coming to LA anytime soon. I'd love to see you do a reading or better yet show you around.
Can't wait to hear more about your wedding and see pics if you choose to share.
xox Leigha
Posted by: leigha | Sep 27, 2006 2:34:48 PM
I just started reading your blog which is good. I wondered if you had any advice for any putting young writer?
Posted by: Tashya | Sep 29, 2006 9:20:21 AM
You posted your Thanksgiving menu, but PLEASE post some of your favorite recipes. I would particularly like to see some holiday recipes.
Posted by: Cindy Livingston | Nov 18, 2006 6:36:29 PM
wow...
Posted by: susan | Dec 26, 2006 5:36:03 AM
Two things: The wedding photos and starting with 'Between the Sheets'. That's what I'd like to see
Posted by: Shambolic Symbolic Lara | Jan 25, 2007 6:11:12 AM
i love your lists. what about 100 things from phil or 100 things from lea?
Posted by: NyC Cristina | Feb 24, 2007 7:03:46 PM
Hi Stephanie. Could you please let me know where I can find that post where you talk about selfishness of a ex-best-friend who ignored your wedding ? I have a 'friend' just like that and would like to read it and maybe show it to her about how exactly her behavior is perceived by others. Thanks for the good writing. Keep it up.
Posted by: Sp | Jun 22, 2007 5:41:38 PM
Stephanie,
I just wanted to say how much I am enjoying your book!!! I started reading it yesterday and was laughing so much my husband asked me what was so funny. I love your sense of humor and the things you do, remind me of my single days in Manhattan.
Posted by: LJF_NYC | Jul 3, 2007 2:32:34 PM
As an about-to-be first-time mom, I'd be interested to see what you consider the must-have's of mommyhood! I've seen your lists and links and have wondered if you have baby stuff you can't live without! (I'm guessing one of them is your camera....)
Thanks!!
Posted by: Nicole | Aug 2, 2007 2:22:41 PM
You have such great hair. Could you let the rest of know what products you use? I have curly hair and mine sure as hell doesn't look like yours!
Posted by: Curls | Oct 22, 2007 12:51:24 PM
being a potty mouth is not funny and it really makes you appear stupider than you probably are. just an observation.
Posted by: jay | Jan 11, 2008 3:30:00 PM
Hey,
I'm writing from Italy.
I read your book last summer, while I was still working for a lawyer (bad asshole).I LOOOVED it, and I still do, obv..
I have a question, not a suggestion ('cause I don't have any).
How can I find a boyfriend?
I mean, i know it sounds like a stupid question, the problem is, we (you and me) have practically the same character.
Help needed
FROM SK: First of all, dating in Europe has a whole separate manual. Europeans don't date like Americans do. Groups of friends see each other, lots of get togethers. There aren't many "dating" as we do here, so to "find a boyfriend," I suggest you make some new friends. Start with that and see what happens. And as always, I suggest you follow your own passions, what really interests you. I know people say, "no, only do things that are target-rich" meaning, only do things where you know guys will be. They won't be at a baking class. But I disagree. I believe if you do what you love, and actually leave the house, it might take you longer to meet someone, but when you do, you'll have much in common... or at least that one thing. When I was single, I thought, I'm just going to write because that's what I love, and maybe one day I'll meet someone through doing that, maybe an agent or publishing person, pr, who knows. And I DID meet someone because of my writing. I met Phil. He loved what I wrote and was very persistent. So I do believe if you do what you love, not just shopping, but something that makes you look at your watch and say, "how did that happen? I hadn't realized I'd been at this so long." When time passes like that, you're onto something you really love. That's what you should be doing. If it's cooking, and you'd always be home, throw dinner parties, look into classes, volunteer, just make it something you love.
Posted by: Mia | Feb 7, 2008 5:51:13 PM
how come you have no pictures of you pregnant???
Posted by: AD | Mar 24, 2008 2:48:55 PM
Stephanie:
I have read your blog since '04 and I just finished your book. I wanted to first tell you that Gabe Rosen is (more then) a bit of a shit and his mother is, well, a nightmare. I'm amazed that you managed to put up with ALL of that nonsense. As for suggestions I really just needed a forum to commend you on your book, you blog, your new marriage (you seem to have found happiness), your twins and your creativity. It takes a lot to rebuild after a divorce and I must say- Well done.
Posted by: Leah | Mar 27, 2008 10:40:45 PM
My suggestion for you is to share with us your favorite day.
Posted by: Wecker | Mar 31, 2008 4:24:56 PM
I am a thin person thinking I'm fat. I can't help myself.
Posted by: Beth from the Funny Farm | May 20, 2008 12:12:18 PM
How is Linus??
Posted by: Jenn | May 27, 2008 3:28:42 PM
Got a two-part question for you: I'd like to know your take on couples living together...is this at all a trial-run for marriage? I'm 26, never been married and am in my second live-in relationship...advice, suggestions? Secondly, my parents and sister have all but cut me out of their lives bc they say they are 'beyond disappointed' with my decisions of late. No, I haven't murdered anyone or become a bank robber. I've relocated from Austin to a smaller Texas town, I'm dating a genuinely good guy who I'm most content with, I took a decent paying job (that's not at all stimulating) so that I can save money to go back to school...these are decisions I've made to create a happy, fulfilling existence for myself. And I am the happiest and have the most peace I've ever had in my life...I'm just at a total loss about why they are reacting this way to my current state of joy.
Posted by: Anna | May 30, 2008 12:18:35 PM
1) You mentioned a lecture/speech you would give at a University during the tour, something about crossing the boundaries, if I remember well. Would it be possible to get the text you've prepared (if any), or video clip, if existing.
2) I know new design was not meant to be THE design, but still I really dislike it, so please do something about it soon.
Tnx. Kiss
Posted by: La Lara | Jun 17, 2008 9:17:04 AM
Question:
How do you avoid procrastination, or is that just a problem you don't have to deal with?
FROM SK:
Answer: Who says I avoid it? The way I see it (or rationalize it), when I'm not working and am procrastinating, unless it's playing a video game, my brain is still thinking... that is, I'm still learning. Even if I'm cleaning, doing simple tasks, my thinking cap is on. Everything we do informs us and can set a mood.
When I must avoid procrastination, though, I leave the house, and believe it or not, go to TARGET. There's a Starbucks inside my Target without any internet access. There's a Starbucks from there in walking distance with internet access, but I always choose to go where I cannot get online. When it's just me and my computer, no iPhone, I get tons of work done and don't want to come home to stop. I could go for days working like that. It's awesome how much I love what I do! I feel so so lucky.
Posted by: Barbara | Jul 23, 2008 3:53:21 PM
You said in your book that it is not about following your life list.. If you did have a list of 100 things you wanted to do at this point in your life what would they be?
Posted by: Katie | Aug 23, 2008 4:59:23 PM
